How Do You Plan a vacation when subject to a Lottery?

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What is an asshole?

There are many words that could describe an asshole. You could call such people as mean-spirited, bullies, creeps, jerks, weasels, tormentors, tyrants, serial slammers, despots or even unconstrained egomaniacs. However "asshole" best describes my loathing of these creatures that call themselves human beings. They are just plain nasty.

The question is: Do you know any? Are you willing to share stories concerning these beings? If so, feel free to use this blog to air it all. I would certainly welcome knowing where they work and where they come from if that's all right.

My inspiration to initiate a blog about assholes comes from a book I picked up at Barnes and Noble called " The No Asshole Rule " Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn't! by Robert I. Sutton, Phd.

While I have no affiliation with Robert I. Sutton, I believe this is a great book to have on your bookshelf to remind you that if you are a victim to the tactics employed by assholes, you are not alone.

The book lists THE DIRTY DOZEN -- Common Everyday Actions That Assholes Use

1. Personal Insults
2. Invading one's "personal territory"
3. Uninvited physical contact
4. Threats and intimidation, both verbal and nonverbal
5. " Sarcastic Jokes" and "teasing" used as insult delivery
6. Withering e-mail frames
7. Status slaps intended to humiliate their victims
8. Public shaming or "status degradation" rituals
9. Rude interruptions
10.Two face attacks
11. Dirty Looks
12. Treating people as if they are invisible

I am interest in your story so feel free to discuss it here.

A true story:

My wife works in a hostile workplace and she has been subjected to the rule and wrath of assholes, in my opinion. This is one of many stories that I have heard and gotten confirmation of by different people.

Carrie, Maureen and myself had been going to lunch on occasion for months. Carrie has a young son, so whenever I would get free passes to the amusement park, I would give them to her for her and her son.

The relationship was one of friendship until one day Carrie and Mau��en decide to go for a very infrequent afternoon coffee break in th� company cafeteria. When they returned, Carrie is called into Mary Ann's office and told in so many words, I suggest you stay away from Maureen if you value your job!
Carrie passed this along to Maureen. To this day Carrie will not talk to Maureen, treats her as invisible and finds ways to try and demean her in front of the group.

I often wait for Maureen at lunch, see Carrie walking by and watch as she drops her eyes and passes me by without even a hello, or acknowledgment of my existence. I am also invisible.

Mary Ann and her underling Laverne have engineered a hostile environment for Maureen. I say this based upon confirming conversations with people who see and hear what is going on. Sad to say I see more and more evidence that the behavior of Mary Ann, Laverne and Carrie may be supported by upper management. More story's about her torment at work as we go forward. Meanwhile, let me hear about your encounters with assholes, if nothing it might make you feel better.

Do you think Mary Ann, Laverne and Carrie are assholes?